Life is not a montage

I feel like I’m waiting for the musical interlude and for my life to magically change before my eyes.  That’s the way movies tell me that change happens.  But, of course, in my mind I know that is not true.  Wha?!?!?!

In face, change is PAINFULLY slow sometimes.  Other times, I mull over something for a long time and then change feels really fast but, in fact, I have to account for the mulling time.  I actually love it when this happens, though, because it usually feels really right.

I have to make my own montage.  It’s not going to be nearly as sexy or quick as what I’d see in a movie but I will know the change is happening.  That is what creates the calm inside of me.

My first big goal is to become a minimalist.  I have been reading this and this and I have been observing my life and realizing that I am never going to feel like I have space in my life for the truly important things until I clear out the extra clutter in my house.

I have two kids, I work full time, my husband works full time, and we spend our entire weekend cleaning and purchasing stuff for the next week.  At night we cook and clean and sleep.  We might even squeeze in something extra if all goes well with bedtime.

I don’t want to end up watching my kids move out of the house and realize I wasted all that time with them trying to simply keep up with everyday life.  I’d love a part-time job and I will be working toward that.  In the meantime, I will be clearing out the clutter.  I’m hopeful that some of the things I learn in these books and from observing my kids and my life will click for me.  My hope is that it begins to affect other areas of my life and help me feel more calm.

We shall see…

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Kids and Brushing

My grandma’s boyfriend always said, “Take care of your teeth, they are a direct connection to your physical health.”  He was so wise and I have never forgotten these words.

I want to convey this to my kids and make sure they floss and brush every single day because I know they will thank me for it later (Ack!) but it’s tough to convince a four year old the importance of his oral care.  Which is why I was so excited to come across this adorable book at the pediatric dentist:

bugsIsn’t it cute?!  And the story is good, he was into it while we read it in the waiting room.

How do you convince your little one to brush and floss?

Best gifts for a two year old girl, the answer might shock you!

islacloseMy daughter is about to turn two and I’ve been trying to figure out what to buy that she will truly love and use and not just another plastic toy that will fill up the toy bin and get played with twice a year.

Here are a few things I came up with in case you might be interested…

Cosco Step Stool

stoolShe is all about being independent so this will allow her to wash her hands all by herself and probably about a million other things like help me prepare food in the kitchen and turn on the lights.  I know she will use this multiple times a day for several years.

PS The reviews are great and someone pointed it out it can double as a seat when you run out of chairs and help you reach things on tall shelves!

Mini Mag Light

flashlightWhat kid doesn’t like a flashlight?  They could play with this all day and night.  This one is pink and benefits  breast cancer.  Can’t go wrong.

Pink Elephant Lunch Bag

lunchbagIsn’t this sweet!? Her lunch bag is too small so a new lunch bag would be a great gift.  Again, something she will use and love every single day.  Kids get very attached to their lunch bags and I can imagine her carrying this around all day.  The design is unique which means other kids in class won’t have the same thing, aka you never take the someone else’s lunch bag home on accident!  Very important with kids in daycare.

Neon Polarized Sunglasses

sunglassesThis may just be my daughter but she loves sunglasses.  Living in the desert I’d love it if she wore them every day.  I will talk to my eye doctor about the best option for a kid but this seems like a good start.  Cute and functional and I believe she’ll wear them all the time.

“Frozen” Thermos Funtainer

thermosWhat is it with Frozen, it has some serious staying power!  She loves Frozen and I want her to love her water bottle because it’s so good for her.  She’ll use this every day.  They have a ton of designs, too.

I got this same thermos for my son (Mickey Mouse design) and it keeps the water nice and cold, is fun for him to pop open, it’s very recognizable and easy to tag with their name so it’s great for daycare.  We also tote it around with us in the car to do errands and we need the water to stay cold, again, it’s the desert.

Prince Lionheart Booster Seat

boosterMy little junebug is very independent, as I said, and no longer uses a high chair but she can still fall out of the big chair.  This seems like it will be a good option to keep her strapped in and still feeling like a big girl.  Absolutely necessary and useful every day!

aden + anais Security Blankets

blanketNot all kids like the satin but she loooves it and it comforts her.  We have a lot of larger blankets but they are hot for the summer.  These little blankets are small and very light and perfect for the (desert) summer and the little elephants are so sweet.

Hmmm, just realizing there’s an elephant theme that’s starting to develop…

Painted Ukelele

ukeleleI’d love for my kids to have an interest in music so I want to surround them with instruments to play with.  This is just her size and so classic.  I’d love to learn myself!

Harmonica

harmonicaIn the same vein, who doesn’t love a harmonica!  This might drive me crazy but I’m willing to give it a shot.

Chatter Telephone

phoneAnd just to have a toy on the list, I had to go with the classic Chatter Telephone.  I think she will love dragging this around and dialing the phone.  I like the idea that my kids would be able to recognize the old rotary phone concept.

I could probably go on forever, especially since I haven’t even mentioned any books which she absolutely loves.  I’ll come back after a few months and let you know what we get from this list and how she liked it!

What ideas do you have that I missed?

Blurry weekend, and not in the good way

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We had quite a weekend.  Having two kids is a wonderful experience, and the hardest thing I have ever done!  We have been having some sleep issues and this weekend was no exception.

I got into work this morning in a haze and it reminded me of an episode of How I Met Your Mother where Lilly and Marshall are delirious from the new baby and everything looks and sounds like it’s happening under water.  That is exactly how I feel today!  I remember laughing pretty hard during the episode and the relief that washed over me to see an accurate portrayal of this cloudy feeling.

As a result I searched the interwebs found some pretty staggering statistics about sleep and parenting:

  • New parents lose 44 DAYS of sleep in the first year of a child’s life (that’s 44×24 hours=1056 HOURS)
  • Parents get just 5.1 hours of sleep per night in their first year
  • Surveyed mothers survive on an average of just three-and-a-half hours’ sleep a night for the first four months of their baby’s life
  • Half the surveyed mothers said that the sleeplessness had caused fights with their partners
  • 83% of new mothers surveyed said that sheer fatigue put them off sex

This all feels true.

What’s amazing is that as hard as it all is, I can and am doing it.  I would have never predicted that I would react this way when I had kids.  I thought the husband would do most of the work but it turns out, I am stronger and more resilient than I realized.  And actually, those middle of the night moments can be really special and bonding.  After working and being in daycare all day, sometimes it’s what we both need.  I mean, I’d like the sleep and we both need that, too, but the middle of the night is what I tend to remember most about babyhood.

In the end, I’m learning a lot about myself, and growing into a parent.  And someone who drinks a lot of coffee.

Can any parents out there relate?!

xoxo

PS If you really want a good laugh, Google ‘mom multitasking’

Halloween Love

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Cute Halloween footprint art for kids, toddlers and babies. It’s fun to see their foot size grow through art!

Every holiday I like to do footprint art with the kids.  It’s fun to see how their foot size changes through time.  I don’t always get it done but this year I managed to pull off a Halloween craft!

I did the basic footprint (Charlie’s is huge!) with white paint on black paper and then took them and made them into two different decorations.

I have some work to do on my photography but I thought they came out pretty good!

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Cute Halloween footprint art for kids, toddlers and babies. It’s fun to see their foot size grow through art!

We also managed to carve a pumpkin last night and toast the pumpkin seeds…yum. We may be a little sick around our house but we’re trying to enjoy the holiday season!

Super easy mom hair

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I recently got my hair cut and colored and I was asked how often I wash my hair.  My answer: every few days (which she was thrilled about).  I didn’t tell her that it’s only because I can’t find the time to do it more often with two little babies at home!

She was surprised to find out the secret to keeping my hair fresh which is… Continue reading