Life is not a montage

I feel like I’m waiting for the musical interlude and for my life to magically change before my eyes.  That’s the way movies tell me that change happens.  But, of course, in my mind I know that is not true.  Wha?!?!?!

In face, change is PAINFULLY slow sometimes.  Other times, I mull over something for a long time and then change feels really fast but, in fact, I have to account for the mulling time.  I actually love it when this happens, though, because it usually feels really right.

I have to make my own montage.  It’s not going to be nearly as sexy or quick as what I’d see in a movie but I will know the change is happening.  That is what creates the calm inside of me.

My first big goal is to become a minimalist.  I have been reading this and this and I have been observing my life and realizing that I am never going to feel like I have space in my life for the truly important things until I clear out the extra clutter in my house.

I have two kids, I work full time, my husband works full time, and we spend our entire weekend cleaning and purchasing stuff for the next week.  At night we cook and clean and sleep.  We might even squeeze in something extra if all goes well with bedtime.

I don’t want to end up watching my kids move out of the house and realize I wasted all that time with them trying to simply keep up with everyday life.  I’d love a part-time job and I will be working toward that.  In the meantime, I will be clearing out the clutter.  I’m hopeful that some of the things I learn in these books and from observing my kids and my life will click for me.  My hope is that it begins to affect other areas of my life and help me feel more calm.

We shall see…

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Looking up

at_last_i_see_the_light_by_jucylucyinspired-d3dzldyI know when I’m getting bogged down in my own head or going through a rough patch mentally because my postings tend to fall off.  Lately I’ve been going through a bit of a career identity crisis.  I’d like to post about it here so I’m trying to collect my thoughts into some coherent topics so I don’t ramble incessantly.

In the meantime, I’m feeling a little lighter and will get back to posting things that speak to me.

I discovered this great list of 9 things professional organizers do every day.  Shockingly I do about 75% of these (ish)!  Although many of them are recent habits and I have to say, it makes a big difference, especially those neverending dishes.

Art by Pinkie Perfect

Weight loss is all about the food?

fitbitI have been wearing my Fitbit consistently over the past week and one thing has really jumped out at me as I look at my statistics.

If you look at the two screenshots above you can see that no matter if I have an terrible day or a kick-butt day, I saw only 90 calorie difference in the calories burned!

How crazy is that!  I had some idea that food had far more impact than exercise on weight loss but seeing in black and white (or teal and orange) like this is mind boggling.

As I started researching I came across this great article by Dick Talens where he explains this phenomenon.  Here are a couple of tidbits which I found interesting:

Most of the calories we spend in a day we do so without even getting out of bed:wlbed

Here he says spend more time in the kitchen prepping your food and cooking and, whatever you do, make sure you can sustain it.wlquote

I enjoyed these tips because they encourage us to be practical.

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Obviously the gym and exercise are supremely important to HEALTH so I enjoyed this:

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The Fitbit is definitely getting me up and walking and taking the stairs.  So I think for now I will just ignore the calorie bit, what do you think?

Three Questions

designMy husband and I are eternally trying to improve on certain things in our lives (think money, health and cleanliness).  So we’d have these BIG TALKS about changing the way we live.  We’d get all pumped, do great for a couple of days and then ultimately fall off the wagon.

We decided a big key to our success would be to talk about our goals EVERY SINGLE DAY, first thing in the morning.  So each day I send a text to my husband with three headers and then my reason for wanting to improve those things.

For example, ‘I want to be smarter with money so that we can make choices about how we spend our money rather than feeling like we HAVE to pay this or we HAVE to pay that and then have nothing left over.’

It’s really helped us keep our goals top of mind and it’s fun to see how our attitudes change from day to day.

I have come to realize that working together on our big goals is the only way we will succeed.  If I am going one direction and he is going another then we are both swimming against the current.  If we go together we have more power than we do alone.

Do you have an easy trick you use to stay on track?

PS Stay tuned for some silly and fun ways to help us stick to our goals!

Living a life worth commenting on

IMG_2657Blogging has been really fun and interesting but there are times when you’re racking your brain trying to think about what to write about.  Recently I was listening to this podcast and Pete and Ben had a conversation about improv and at one point Ben realized he was repeating himself and it was starting to get boring.

One of his wise teachers told him that he needed to take a break and go out and live.  You need something to improvise about and Pete made a great comment which was:

“You need to live a life worth commenting on.”

In that moment, that really blew my mind.  It was a reminder to me that when you are trying to be creative, you have to go out and live to stimulate all your creative neurons and inspire new ideas.

What do you do for creative stimulation?

Door holding etiquette – How far is too far?

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I always feel a little rude if someone is walking sort of far behind me and I don’t hold the door open for them.  But if I do, they feel forced to half-run to the door to acknowledge my politeness and that’s rough when they are in heels or it’s really hot out.

I started wondering if there was a agreed upon distance past which you don’t have to hold the door open for someone and I came across the above cartoon that made me laugh.

The only guideline I found was a distance of 10 feet which is a little hard to gauge if you are distance challenged, which I am.

The good news is, based on the cartoon, that other people wonder the same thing.  It gives me confidence to go ahead and let the door close behind me if the person just seems to far away.  Worst case I can always say, oh my gosh I should have held the door for you, if I realize they were closer than I thought.  I’d rather that than force them to run.

If you want to read more about door opening etiquette, this article is really good and while this one made me laugh.

Do you have a standard that you follow that could help me out?

[Poorly Drawn Lines via Tara Ariano]