I remember watching Celebrity Rehab (yes, I watch all rehab and addiction shows…it’s an addiction…DOH!) and Dr. Drew said that addicts who have neglectful parents often do better at rehab and are more likely to kick the habit than addicts with helicopter parents. This really shocked me! It didn’t make a lot of sense until I heard some very wise words from a very wise woman…
We had quite a weekend. Having two kids is a wonderful experience, and the hardest thing I have ever done! We have been having some sleep issues and this weekend was no exception.
I got into work this morning in a haze and it reminded me of an episode of How I Met Your Mother where Lilly and Marshall are delirious from the new baby and everything looks and sounds like it’s happening under water. That is exactly how I feel today! I remember laughing pretty hard during the episode and the relief that washed over me to see an accurate portrayal of this cloudy feeling.
As a result I searched the interwebs found some pretty staggering statistics about sleep and parenting:
- New parents lose 44 DAYS of sleep in the first year of a child’s life (that’s 44×24 hours=1056 HOURS)
- Parents get just 5.1 hours of sleep per night in their first year
- Surveyed mothers survive on an average of just three-and-a-half hours’ sleep a night for the first four months of their baby’s life
- Half the surveyed mothers said that the sleeplessness had caused fights with their partners
- 83% of new mothers surveyed said that sheer fatigue put them off sex
This all feels true.
What’s amazing is that as hard as it all is, I can and am doing it. I would have never predicted that I would react this way when I had kids. I thought the husband would do most of the work but it turns out, I am stronger and more resilient than I realized. And actually, those middle of the night moments can be really special and bonding. After working and being in daycare all day, sometimes it’s what we both need. I mean, I’d like the sleep and we both need that, too, but the middle of the night is what I tend to remember most about babyhood.
In the end, I’m learning a lot about myself, and growing into a parent. And someone who drinks a lot of coffee.
Can any parents out there relate?!
PS If you really want a good laugh, Google ‘mom multitasking’