My husband and I are eternally trying to improve on certain things in our lives (think money, health and cleanliness). So we’d have these BIG TALKS about changing the way we live. We’d get all pumped, do great for a couple of days and then ultimately fall off the wagon.
We decided a big key to our success would be to talk about our goals EVERY SINGLE DAY, first thing in the morning. So each day I send a text to my husband with three headers and then my reason for wanting to improve those things.
For example, ‘I want to be smarter with money so that we can make choices about how we spend our money rather than feeling like we HAVE to pay this or we HAVE to pay that and then have nothing left over.’
It’s really helped us keep our goals top of mind and it’s fun to see how our attitudes change from day to day.
I have come to realize that working together on our big goals is the only way we will succeed. If I am going one direction and he is going another then we are both swimming against the current. If we go together we have more power than we do alone.
Do you have an easy trick you use to stay on track?
PS Stay tuned for some silly and fun ways to help us stick to our goals!
Blogging has been really fun and interesting but there are times when you’re racking your brain trying to think about what to write about. Recently I was listening to this podcast and Pete and Ben had a conversation about improv and at one point Ben realized he was repeating himself and it was starting to get boring.
One of his wise teachers told him that he needed to take a break and go out and live. You need something to improvise about and Pete made a great comment which was:
“You need to live a life worth commenting on.”
In that moment, that really blew my mind. It was a reminder to me that when you are trying to be creative, you have to go out and live to stimulate all your creative neurons and inspire new ideas.
What do you do for creative stimulation?
I always feel a little rude if someone is walking sort of far behind me and I don’t hold the door open for them. But if I do, they feel forced to half-run to the door to acknowledge my politeness and that’s rough when they are in heels or it’s really hot out.
I started wondering if there was a agreed upon distance past which you don’t have to hold the door open for someone and I came across the above cartoon that made me laugh.
The only guideline I found was a distance of 10 feet which is a little hard to gauge if you are distance challenged, which I am.
The good news is, based on the cartoon, that other people wonder the same thing. It gives me confidence to go ahead and let the door close behind me if the person just seems to far away. Worst case I can always say, oh my gosh I should have held the door for you, if I realize they were closer than I thought. I’d rather that than force them to run.
If you want to read more about door opening etiquette, this article is really good and while this one made me laugh.
Do you have a standard that you follow that could help me out?
[Poorly Drawn Lines via Tara Ariano]
I’ve been trying to get some new things going in my life which I will hopefully share at some point in a future post.
But trying to make change can get really hard. And as much as I want it, sometimes the obstacles feel insurmountable.
I was in a major funk last week and it just wasn’t getting better, even over a few days. I decided I needed to get out of my head so I started scrolling through my list of podcasts.
One of my favorites is You Made It Weird with Pete Holmes. I went back through the guests and found two I wanted to listen to.
They helped me get out of my head for a while and gain some perspective by hearing someone else’s story. It also gave me a little boost of motivation to keep pushing forward so I thought I would share.
The first is with Chris Hardwick who was on MTV with Jenny McCarthy back in the day and then spent many years struggling in his career and in life until he got sober, lost a bunch of weight and started the Nerdist empire. Just a really down to earth and genuine guy who really loves people and especially other comics.
The second one is with Jon Hamm who was in Hollywood for THREE YEARS before he got an acting job. And he is really insightful and well-read and I totally enjoyed his perspective.
So if you need something to get you through a funk, too, take a listen.
What do you do to get out of a funk? Or do you have any podcasts you love that get you through the day?
I was just having a conversation with a coworker about the enchantment that is New Orleans. She reminded me that before we moved there we watched this video of Ingrid Lucia over and over again. The song and video say it all.
Who doesn’t want to visit after watching that?
I know I’m not the only one addicted to Pinterest. I think everyone has a secret obsession with it. I have my phone set up to alert me when someone pins my pins and weirdly, this is the most popular pin. Guess there are a lot of baby rooms being painted out there…
What are you obsessed with on Pinterest?
A few years ago my friend Goh turned me on to the cotton stretch pencil skirt. What’s great about it is that it is slimming and sexy and looks good on everyone. It usually comes in a variety of colors and patterns so you can add some variety and interest to your wardrobe.
What I love most is that I can dress it up with heels and a blouse or dress it down with chucks and a tee and still feel stylish. I choose skirts that are primarily cotton which makes them cool and comfy and a great alternative to shorts in the summer.
The stretch factor is key because it means I can still sit on the floor, climb over baby gates and chase after my little buggers without worrying about ripping the skirt, it just bounces right back.
I have this one from Old Navy, classic colors here, trendy colors offered here and why not a polka dot pattern or gingham pattern?
What are your go-to pieces this summer?
My grandma’s boyfriend always said, “Take care of your teeth, they are a direct connection to your physical health.” He was so wise and I have never forgotten these words.
I want to convey this to my kids and make sure they floss and brush every single day because I know they will thank me for it later (Ack!) but it’s tough to convince a four year old the importance of his oral care. Which is why I was so excited to come across this adorable book at the pediatric dentist:
Isn’t it cute?! And the story is good, he was into it while we read it in the waiting room.
How do you convince your little one to brush and floss?